December 1975

Scottie Says

Dear Scottie:

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Everytime I find myself in a sexual situation with a stranger, the evening becomes tense and not very fulfilling. It seems that I'm overly worried about doing the right things and making the time enjoyable for the other person. I often feel like I'm a sex machine, grinding out everything that is expected of me. Because I'm so caught up in a performing thing it's usually difficult for me to get off. Please help......

Stuck in Warren

Dear Stuck:

Gay writers of the recent past have made the astute observation that heterosexuals wine, dine, and develop friendships with prospective sexual partners before making any overtures; gays on the other hand primarily initiate their relationships with sex, and emotional attachments arrive later. As such, some argue that gays have more pressures for producing the best sexual performance possible. This, however, is sheer nonsense. Sex, by it's very nature, is

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a selfish act. (Now remember, I'm not talking about love.) We are physical with each other because it is stimulating and fulfills individual needs. When one cums, he/she cums alone, Even if the other person is simultaneously cumming, the experience and sensation one feels are solitary. Knowing this, we should do what makes us feel most comfortable. Instead of worrying so much about fulfilling the other person, do what you like to do. Tell your sex partner what turns you on and what doesn't. This, in turn, will eastablish the basis for him/her to likewise tell you his /her preferences. And you won't have to worry about doing what's "expected" of you.

There is no rulebook for gay sexual behavior, as you can see by the Male Sex Survey results presented elsewhere in this issue. By formulating a criterion in your head, you are doing yourself and your partner a disservice which results in the tension and discomfort you speak of. Relax...So few of us "do it" with each other without

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The following is provided courtesy The National Gay Task Force Room 506, 80 Fifth Avenue, N.Y., N.Y. 10011: Cities prohibiting discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation are:

New York, N.Y. Feb., 1972; East Lansing, Michigan March 1972; San Francisco, April 1972; Ann Arbor, Michigan July, 1972. Washington D.C. November, 1973; Seattle, 1973; Toronto, Ontario 1973; Berkeley, California. 1973; Detroit, November 1973.

Columbus, Ohio January 1974; Minneapolis, March 1974; Alfred, New York, May, 1975; St. Paul, Minn., July, 1974; Palo Alto, Calif. August 1974; Ithaca, New York September, 1974; Sunnyvale, Calif., October 1974.

San Jose, Calif. November, 1974 Portland, Oregon December, 1974; Mountain View, Calif. Feb., 1975; Cupertino, Calif. February. 1975; Madison, Wisconsin March, 1975; Marshall, Minn. April 1975.

Yellow Springs, Ohio July, 1975; Santa Cruz County, Calif, July, 1975; Austin, Texas July, 1975; Santa Barbara, Calif. Aug. 1975; Chapel Hill No. Carolina, Sept. 1975;

Hey now, what do you say about such rights in Cleveland, Akron, Warren. Toledo Canton, Cincinnati, Dayton, and Lima? Join your local Ohio gay organization today and make history.

As of October 1, thirteen states have repealed their socalled sodomy laws, laws against particular sex acts between consenting adults. They are: Arkansas, California, Colocado, Connecticut, Delaware.

Hawaii, Illinois, Maine, New Mexico, North Dakota.

Ohio Oregon, Washington.

ever talking about "it." We should take advantage of the fact that gays initially interact with each other on a sexual level. Sex is communication. It is a statement of "me" as well as "you." Sex has far less to do with physical performance than it does with acceptance of self and important others. If channels of communication are freeflowing, there can exist no such thing as a "bad lay." Dear Scottie:

I am sixteen and gay. I'm too young to go to the bars, and the mall is too full of creeps and dangerous. Where can I meet other gays my age?

Lonely and Underaged Dear Lonely: Unfortunately, your problem is an all too common one. The puritanical and uptight administrators of most High Schools are unlikely to sanction a gay organization within their walls; however there exist a number of groups in the Northern Ohio area which have no ane limits. Among them include

Page 15 Cleveland's Gay Political Union, a Cleveland discussion group at the Free Clinic, MCC, Dignity (in) both Cleveland and Akron and soon in Toledo), D.Y.K.E. (Cleveland), the Personal Rights Organization of Toledo, Kent Gay Liberation Front, and Akron G.A.A. You may refer to other groups in the Northern Ohio Social Scene section of High Gear.

Frankly, it is not easy for. young gays to meet people who are their peers; however it can be done. For nearly a year CSU had an organization limited to people under 21. Such a new organizaion could be formed now by either yourself or other interested young gays. I am certain the editors of High Gear would be happy to publicize your meetings. In the meantime keep your chin inup and avenues menvestigate the

tioned above. You don't have to walt two years to be active in some aspect of gay life.

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